I was amazed when I found out about the research that if you’re in a bad mood, happy songs will make you even sadder. On the contrary, it’s sad songs that may improve your mood. The reason is that when a song’s emotion matches your current state of mind, you feel less alone. And it makes perfect sense. When I was in a very very bad mood a few years ago, it was one song that I played in a loop for days that saved my life (And yes Abba, I am dancing once again :))
This playlist may not cure your broken heart, but it will make your pain seen. You’re not alone. However unique your love story is, someone already went through it.
For a second, put your pride aside, your strong suit and let the drama overwhelm you. Let’s live through this together as intense as it can be, and let go (look who’s talking haha).
Let’s start our ‘crying guaranteed’ playlist.
1) ‘Amami Alfredo’ from La Traviata
Perfect for breakups due to logical decisions that your partner couldn’t see. This is not an aria. It’s the peak-drama point of ‘La Traviata’ (You can see how the overture was based on this motive). When Violetta leaves her lover Alfredo for the sake of him, she asks Alfredo to ‘love her’. But of course, Alfredo didn’t question anything, couldn’t see the big picture and quickly turns his back to Violetta (men, right?).
2) ‘Un Bel di Vedromo’ from Madama Butterfly
Perfect for dreamers who still have hope. A hopeless hope. The worst kind of torture I can imagine. Butterfly waits for her American husband to return, everyone tries to prepare her for the possibility that he will not come back. She can’t even imagine that possibility, she signs about his imaginary return. Meanwhile, for Pinkerton, this was just a ‘fling’, he had another wife now. Butterfly imagines a good scenario, but Puccini doesn’t let the audience believe this dream. We all know the truth, it is only Butterfly in denial. Puccini composed the most touching melodies in a hopeful dream which was hopeless all along.
3) ‘Song to The Moon’ from Rusalka
Perfect for impossible love. Rusalka, a nymph, who’s in love with a prince, speaks to the moon about her love. Just redirect your love to nature, let it out. Love is a beautiful feeling even if it hurts. No need to hold it in. I don’t want to upset you even more but in the end, she sacrifices her voice to become a human, he doesn’t like her silence, starts to flirt with other women. Not a happy ending, in the end. Whatever happens happens, let’s drown in our love for a moment.
4) ‘E lucevan le stelle’ from Tosca
Perfect for lovers who can’t be together due to the circumstances. Mario who will be executed soon due to political reasons tries to write a farewell letter to his lover, Tosca but overwhelms with the idea of ‘goodbye’. Tosca, a strong woman who never gives up, comes with a solution and tries to save him, but she’s been deceived. Both die eventually.
5) ‘The Letter Scene’ from Eugene Onegin
Perfect for those who risk opening up to their loved ones. Although DMs, WhatsApp messages replace love letters, concept still exists. Tatyana writes down her feelings for Onegin into a letter. You can feel the intensity of her feelings that will later be despised by Onegin only to be regretted years later.
6) ‘D’amor sull’ali rose’ from Il Trovatore
Perfect for if you made a sacrifice. Leonora tries to save his lover Manioc by offering herself instead. Of course, her sacrifice will not be appreciated. Well, she didn’t do it for a tribute anyway. When I was younger, I got too angry with these misunderstandings, unfortunate circumstances. I thought I can make everything my way once I love someone. Now, no, you can’t make everything right.
7) ‘Nessun Dorma’ from Turandot
Perfect for unrequited love. Calaf is in love with a cold princess Turandot and tries everything to catch her heart. After correctly answering all three riddles in the first act but couldn’t convince the princess, Calaf makes a second offer: if she guesses his name right, he will let go of her. While the princess orders the people no one will sleep until they find his name, he sings this aria. Let’s listen in the honor of those who never give up.
8) ‘O mio babbino caro’ from Gianni Schicchi
Perfect for those who are torn between their lover and their family. Lauretta tries to convince the father to let her marry her lover.
9) ‘Una furtiva lacrima’ from L’elisir D’amor
Perfect for those who just found out their crush likes them back. Nemorino buys a fake love potion to win Adina’s heart. When he sees Adina weeping, he is sure that the potion worked. He signs he could die from happiness.
10) ‘O suave fanciulla’ from La Boheme
Perfect for those who lost their belief in ‘love’. If you feel all the feelings you feel at the beginning, however big and unique you claimed it is, are doomed to fade out.
This is a love duet actually and it’s not supposed to be sad. Mimi and Rodolfo celebrate their love in the butterfly stage of their love journey. But it makes me very sad. I believe, in this melody, there’s no pure joy. We can deduct the future events which will not ending well.
Bonus: ‘Je veux vivre’ from Romeo and Juliette
Let’s find hope in the moment, although this one also didn’t end with ‘happily ever after’. Let’s admit that there will be the point on life that we suddenly become happy forever, and focus on the present.
Let’s live, dance, sing, eat, drink, travel..